August 3

Hey, Can I Borrow Your Kid For A Day?

A couple weeks ago, I went to see Toy Story 3 with my seven year old nephew and we had a blast. We got there early and spent some time playing video games in the lobby before buying lots of popcorn and candy and picking the perfect seats in the theater. We went to a matinee showing in the middle of the week, so there were very few people there. It almost felt like we had the whole theater to ourselves.

I had the time of my life. Toy Story 3 was a great movie. It made me laugh and it made me cry in all the right places. It’s one of those movies where you get sucked in by the characters and quickly forget you’re watching a movie. You become part of the story. I walked out of the theater with a smile on my face and it made me realize that, without my nephew, I never would have gone to see it. Why? Because it’s a kids movie and I don’t have kids.

Now, I know there’s no law that says childless people can’t go to kids movies, but let’s be honest. If you’re a parent and you see a middle-aged person with no kids at a kids movie, don’t you worry just a little? You can’t help but wonder if the person is a child molester or just plain weird. They’re definitely out of place.

Besides, half the fun of going to a kids movie is the joy of sharing it with the kids. I loved laughing with my nephew and sharing goofy comments with him. It’s amazing how insightful kids can be. It made me realize how much I missed by not being able to have kids.

Why am I telling you all this? Because, thanks to all those previews before the movie, I have another problem on my hands. I have this list of kids movies I want to see.

  • Despicable Me
  • How To Train Your Dragon
  • Nanny McPhee Returns
  • Rapunzel (coming out in November)
  • a few others I can’t remember the names of at the moment.

Some of these I can see with my nephew if my sister will let me. I can’t hog him, though. My sister likes kids movies, too. And, of course, there’s competition with grandma time. Others are more girly and not something he’d be interested in. I have other nieces and nephews but they’re all older and have either outgrown kids movies or are at that stage where being seen in public with an adult is totally uncool.

So, if I want to go see these movies and NOT look like a middle-aged weirdo, I need to borrow a few kids. Any suggestions?

July 19

To Hell With Niches, Blog Your Passion!

Have you ever read something or been told something that sucked the life right out of your dreams?

I seem to get that a lot, especially from well-meaning friends and family members who think they’re sparing me a lot of wasted time and hard work. Or maybe they think a little disappointment up front will hurt a lot less than a big failure down the line. Whatever the reason, I get sick of hearing it.

Something else I get sick of hearing about is niches, especially from bloggers who encourage you to pick a niche, just not their niche.

I recently came across this post, Blogging About Blogging: Fair Warning, where the author linked to and commented on another post, Stop Blogging About Blogging Already. The point of both posts was to discourage new bloggers from blogging about blogging, a niche they claim is saturated and much too difficult for a new blogger to break into. Ironically, both of these bloggers happen to blog about blogging and if you take a few minutes to read through some of the content on each blog, you’ll quickly find that they each write pretty much the same thing, as do many other bloggers on blogging.

The funny thing is… I like and subscribe to both sites. I also subscribe to Problogger and many others, all blogs about blogging, even though they say a lot of the same stuff. Why? Because they each have a different voice, a different way of presenting the same thing and I like being able to compare ideas, to read different viewpoints. The blogger’s personality draws me in as much or more than the content itself. That’s what keeps me coming back. That’s what I love about blogs. They’re not just information dumps. They’re people. Fascinating, exciting people.

According to Ambrose Bierce “there is nothing new under the sun but there are lots of old things we don’t know.” There are also a lot of wonderful voices we haven’t yet heard. Yours is one of them.

My advice to new bloggers is to find your passion and blog about it. If you’re passionate about blogging, love blogging more than anything in the world and want to pass that passion on to others, than blog about it! Don’t worry if your niche is saturated. Put your voice out there and be heard. You might have to work a little harder than you would in another niche, but if you’re passionate about it, it won’t matter. You’ll be doing what you love and that passion will show through on your blog.

Be who you are and don’t let anyone steal the life out of your dreams.

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June 14

Inspiring Story of Courage and Determination

Like most people, I have dreams, goals and ambitions for my life and, like a lot of people, I also have excuses for not pursuing and achieving those dreams.

  • I don’t have enough time.
  • I don’t have enough money.
  • I don’t know the right people.
  • I don’t know how to do it.

Then I see something like this and realize I have no excuses at all. If I’m not achieving a dream, it’s because I’m not doing what it takes to get there. It’s up to me to take that first step, then the next one, then the one after that.

Take a few minutes and watch this video about D.J. Gregory and the next time you find yourself making excuses, think of him, pick yourself up, and keep going. I know I will.

Via SoupOrNuts

June 11

Moral Dilemma: What Would You Do?

Last night, I made a quick trip to the local grocery store. As I pulled into the parking lot, a beat up red pickup truckĀ  pulled in behind me and followed me up one of the parking aisles. There happened to be 2 parking spaces available, side-by-side, so I pulled into one and the red truck pulled into the other one, next to my driver’s side door.

Immediately after pulling into the space next to me, the passenger in the pickup truck flung his door open. I couldn’t open my car door without hitting his door, so I waited patiently, but the two men in the truck sat there talking to each other and did not get out of the truck. After several minutes had passed, I put my window down and politely asked the passenger if he could close the truck door so I could get out of my car. He responded by saying “F*** You!” and proceeded to call me several vulgar names. I put my window back up and waited a few more minutes. When they still made no effort to let me out of my car, I started it up and prepared to back out and find another parking space.

Dollar SignAt that time, they finally exited the truck. The passenger slammed the truck door and then flipped me off before walking away. I waited until they were out of sight and then turned my car off and got out. There on the ground was a $20 bill, apparently dropped by the rude passenger of the pickup truck.

Normally, if I had found money and had seen the person who dropped it, I would locate that person in the store and return it. But, because this man had been so rude to me for no reason, I chose to keep it.

While talking about this to some co-workers today, all of them agreed they would have kept the money as well, except for one person. She believes I should have been the “better” person and given it back. She also believes that the man would have been ashamed of his rude behavior once he saw what a nice person I was.

Personally, I don’t believe the man would have been ashamed. People who will speak to someone the way he spoke to me, aren’t likely to feel shame about it, no matter how nice I am. Had I returned the money, he probably would have taken it and continued to be his normal, rude, self.

I do, however, wonder if my co-worker is right about being the “better” person, no matter what his response would have been. What do you think? Should I have given the money back? Please leave a comment and tell me what you think.

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